Chancys Code

Building Confidence Through Acknowledging Strengths.

One thing I notice is that my mind tends to always be in a negative headspace. It’s like I am attracted to negativity, what I mean by this is anxiety/stress and worry. My thoughts can sometimes blur my vision and alter my reality. In the show, The Severance, one of the characters said something about how the human mind can envision all types of hell, and the only difference is the different hells of different people. This stuck with me because I thought to myself that is true, the mind can think of things that make us scared worried, and even insecure. Then I noticed that if our mind can be limitless with the amount of awful and stressful things that we can imagine then the same could be said about the good thoughts we can have. The euphoric feeling of hope that emerges from a good visual thought. This is hard for me, to think of good thoughts. I am always in survival mode so I think my mind is conditional to be in a state of trying to find alarming threats but I want to also train my mind to be positive as well. To give myself positive reinforcement to build my confidence. So what I am doing is asking myself what are some good things that did today, like a strength could be I spoke with someone that I liked, I landed a job, I lighted weights, I read a book. I have to constantly remind myself of the good to make space for it in my brain.

Those are pictures of me having fun, trying to reduce some stress and also capture an eye grabbing moment. Enjoying some free time after a stressful and busy week. Reminding myself a life of pleasure is somethng that i deserve to provide for myself as long as i am working hard as well.

I learned a lot about power too. I like power, I want to be successful and ambitious. So I have to learn how to navigate this world successfully. I notice power is a social concept with physical results. I think there is some sort of holy trinity paradigm situation that works with power. The idea of Power is structured around Respect, Relationship Building, Success, & Intimidation. Particularly when it comes to gaining influence, you have to earn respect through RESULTS (accolades, money, trophies) having concrete marks of success, makes it undeniable and that warrants some figure of respect. Relationship building is important because the right people can put you in the right situations. I am not saying to become a sociopath, but network both formally and informally intentionally, those intentions don’t have to be about money and success but also culture and value systems. Success is important because it is directly tied to respect they come hand in hand, when it is acknowledged it is concrete and a place where opinions don’t matter. Cold hard Facts. Last but not least is through intimidation, this doesn’t just mean through violence and aggression this can also mean through higher standards of living. Speaking clearly, and confidently and taking charge of situations can earn you some people who see you as a threat and others who admire you and that’s the best part about intimidation it helps with building your image and also protecting your brand.

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LAST LESSONS

I learned that in the process of dealing with others, you can’t take anything personally, and like Emerson in the law of Detachment mutual interest is everything. If two people want something it; ‘ll happen, if not then it’s just not in the cards, Don’t desire, don’t yearn, and Let go! The same thing goes for dealing with people who don’t see your worth, leave and go, don’t ever sit somewhere questioning your worth. Recognize when it’s being minimized and then exit. Your role isn’t to convince people to like you, your goal is to live fully and go where that is allowed. This doesn’t release you from any social decency you have with others it just puts you in places with positive reinforcements and support. i want to read more books about detachment, buddishm, Transcendentalism, etc.